About two months ago, I was sitting in my doctor’s office after 10 days of feeling horrible. I was exhausted, dealing with pressure at work, dreading the colder weather that was upon us, not seeing enough of my overworked husband, feeling a financial crunch, and very decidedly NOT happy. As I flipped through the current issue of Ladies’ Home Journal, I was thrilled when I came across the “7-day Happiness Makeover: Our Weeklong De-Stress Plan.”
Just reading the tips made me feel calmer, and I was anxious to try it out. The tips are broken down into seven days, beginning with Monday. You’re given six tips to follow as the day goes on, such as Midday and Afternoon Treat, as well as De-Stress Homework. Hold on a second…homework in a de-stress plan? I was immediately skeptical.
Monday, however, was surprisingly easy. The morning tips involved live plants, and I already have tons of plants in my home and office. So maybe that was cheating, but whatever. To make it even better, my mom happened to surprise me at lunch with a gorgeous, gigantic bamboo plant, just because. Sweet! Do I get extra credit? Another tip (“midmorning treat”) included hugging someone, which the visit from my mom helped me accomplish, but what if she hadn’t been around? There’s not really anyone else in my office that would be appropriate to hug, and everyone’s a little nervous about catching something these days. Not sure how practical hugging is, but I get where they’re going with it. The rest of the day was a breeze: research travel, pet a dog, clean out your purse (I purged my email inbox instead, my purse stays pretty clean), write down things that make you feel calm. So far, so good. Checking items off throughout the day made me feel calmer, but I’m not sure the tips had much to do with it.

Two of my de-stress tools helping me unwind
Tuesday was a little better. I started my morning with a LUSH showerbomb that smelled delightful and made me feel a tiny bit luxurious right from the start. I had to switch the time of day on some of the tips for practicality reasons. (Yoga class in the middle of the day? Not gonna happen in the town where I work.) But I laughed a lot during lunch with my department, watched a chick flick (substitute for reading a good book). My favorites were writing down five things I was grateful for as well as an inspirational quote to read the next morning. Giving thanks for my amazing marriage always makes me feel better and put things in perspective, and I love this quote:
“Promise me you’ll always remember: You’re braver than you believe, and stronger than you seem, and smarter than you think.” – Christopher Robin.
It made me smile the next morning, always a great way to begin the day!

I'm grateful for my marriage, and that makes me happy!
By Wednesday, I admit, I was losing some of the skepticism. Could it be I was (gasp!) happier? Well, I didn’t hit 100 percent of Day 3’s tips, but I made the decision that trying to fit them in would just stress me out more, so I gave myself a break and did the best I could. I was finally starting to realize I should appreciate the ideas for the concept, I didn’t have to get every detail exactly right. Anyone who knows me understands what a victory that is! I did a seek-and-find in the morning, emailed an “old friend” that I’d recently reunited with, and got outside for some fresh air at lunch. The De-Stress Homework for the day made me rethink my morning routine, presumably to start the day off in a calmer state. I think it’s already helping.
I haven’t completed the rest of the days yet, but I plan to finish up this Thursday-Sunday. So far, I think the goal is to take moments throughout the day to think about yourself and what you need. Seems simple, but how many of us do that? When was the last time you paused and thought, What would make me feel better right now? Try it tomorrow, whether it’s one of these specific tips or not, I think you may just find you’re smiling a little bit more.
– albledsoe
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